What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that The Messenger is an intense but thoughtful drama about a wounded Iraq War veteran who's been assigned the very difficult task of informing people of their loved ones' deaths. It's a grim subject that certainly won't appeal to everyone -- though families with mature teens whose lives have been touched by war may find it very emotional and rewarding -- but it brings upsome fascinating topics, including the ways that war changes people. The movie doesn't shy away from the raw aspects of soldiers' lives -- complete with strong language, fighting, heavy drinking, sex (including full-frontal nudity) and sex talk -- but it offers a lot to talk and think about.
- Families can talk about the movie's timeliness. With wars going on inIraq and Afghanistan, how do the issues in this movie resonate with real life? What do your kids think?
- What do you think of the rules of notification, as laid down byCaptain Tony Stone? Would a more personal touch, with introductions andphysical contact, be more effective than a cold, military approach?
- Is it unethical for Will to fall in love with Olivia?
- Olivia at one point describes how the war changed her husband. Howcould people better prepare for or deal with the return of loved onesfrom the war?