Pause for kids 15 & under
Graceful, strange romance with intense moments of sexuality.
What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Her is a beautiful, unusual romantic tale whose protagonist falls in love with a computer's voice, an offbeat coupling that may be difficult for younger viewers to comprehend. The film also takes on some mature themes, including the crumbling of a marriage and the mourning period that comes when a relationship breaks apart. Expect some swearing (including "f--k"), and scenes where a character has loud, enthusiastic sex with a voice. There's a bit of quick topless nudity and some sexy moments between adults.
- Families can talk about the relationship between Samantha and Theodore. How is their relationship similar to traditional couplings? How is it different? Is this kind of relationship really far-fetched?
- What might the film be trying to say about the nature of love? Is this a movie about technology, or something much more human, like relationships?
The good stuff
Messages: The movie's depiction of love is profound and moving, and shows us that love can happen in strange ways, not always when we're looking for it, and that it can change us deeply if we can be open to it.
Role models: Theodore may be dazed by his divorce and confused by his feelings for Samantha, but he nevertheless opens himself up to the experience. Also, he's a good friend and a writer who makes an effort at his craft, even if they're letters on behalf of, and for, others.
What to watch for
Violence: Contentious arguments between a couple shown in flashbacks.
Sex: Two instances where a man has a version of phone sex; pleasure is audible and extended. A woman straddles a man and kisses him. One image of a topless pregnant woman that becomes fodder for a sexual fantasy.
Language: Language throughout including: "d-ck," "a--hole," and "f--k."
Consumerism: Not applicable
Drinking, drugs and smoking: Social drinking among friends.
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Her by bern1509
Its hard to imagine the future and where technology is taking us...So you have this broken hearted man lonely after divorcing the love of his life and turns to an OS that can only deliver verbal communication for the entire film. If your n a fan of joakem Phoenix I don't recommend this film, it's him in an almost solo performance for two hours. Slowly paced but his performance was 100 percent and amy Adams never misses.
If nothing else I give it a b+.
Meh! by Crowsfeet
Slightly deeper than I expected, but still really just a long, boring, drawn out and tedious commentary on human needs being increasingly fulfilled electronically, and the socially clumsy and lonely personalities this creates. Interesting men's clothing choices "slightly" in the future. I chuckled a couple of times, but really - I just came away unimpressed and a little creeped out. Meh.
A 2hr Lifetime special written by a crying poet by firebirdude
I cannot believe this movie is getting the ratings that it is. I have no problem playing along with the whole "falling in love with an AI OS system". But it's two hours of two people speaking softly to each other. It's loaded with cliche artsy shots like the classic "steam coming from a manhole cover" while a piano plays slowly in the background. Give me a break. This movie is for a gaggle of 35 year old menstruating heartbroken women. An instant Lifetime movie channel classic. I would not sit through that movie again if you, literally, paid me.
Ridiculous! by lwbaggett
Okay, I guess it's a satire about our e-culture? The dialogue was muttered most of the time and the plot was so utterly slow and boring that I went to sleep several times. The views of LA were lovely, however. Definitely not a kids' picture.
Typical Boy-Meets-Operating System Story by mcgarrybrent
Well done but weird little film. Joaquin Phoenix pulls off the boy half of this relationship with another quirky performance. If you like ogling Scarlet Johansen, you'll be disappointed. You don't see her. But you do get to hear her breathy sexy voice throughout the entire film. If you like quirky, go see Her.
Otherwise, just stay home with your mouse. Or, better yet, curl up with a See n Say.
A soulful and intimate film! by chrisdalton93
"Her" is more than a film about a love affair between a man and a OP (Operating System) although at face value that is what it is. It is clear very on the less social human civilization has been incapsulated by technology leaving you feeling empty with that just "existing" feeling we all have experienced instead of the "living" feeling! Theodore, who is in the midst of a soul crushing divorce, played by the flawless Joaquin Phoenix, is in a constant state of confusion, sense of purpose, nostalgia, and a hurtful yearning for closeness. Samantha ("Her") and Theodore's relationship is the embodiment of a love that separates physicality and just leaves the human heart on the soulful plate of intimate bafflement. This a different kind of film with many underlying messages that is good for all of us to adhere. I recommend it!
Understanding Love by lschech
One of the first American films in a long while to delve into what love really is. No film in recent history has shown the strength of an emotional love versus physical attraction. If you want to understand your ability to truly love see this film.
Her by marshall13
This was by far the absolute worst movie i have ever seen. Everyone told me how great it was. I thought it was extremely boring and I kept waiting for something to happen. A big let down. You either love this movie or hate it.
What a flick! by tbelsare
Science, relationships, philosophy, spirituality, friendships, work - all masterfully woven into a believable premise. Wardrobe choices were a bit questionable - why would men in the future wear wool pants that reached 2/3 up their abdomens? But overall a supremely relevant, intense, enjoyable journey!
If you are looking for guns and special effects, this is not your film. But if you happen to live in the human realm (not the titan or hell realms) - you really MUST GO!
HER by mltyplx
Never been so disappointed by a movie I was so looking forward to seeing. About halfway through the movie, the idea of getting involved with your O.S. seemed almost acceptable, but from that point forward, it just became too much of the same thing. When I start looking around a darkened theater, I know I am getting bored. By the time the ending arrived, it had become pretty predictable. Although Joaquin Phoenix is to me always interesting to watch, the movie just pretty much turned into two hours of the same thing. Boorrring!