Pause for kids 15 & under
Graceful, strange romance with intense moments of sexuality.
What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Her is a beautiful, unusual romantic tale whose protagonist falls in love with a computer's voice, an offbeat coupling that may be difficult for younger viewers to comprehend. The film also takes on some mature themes, including the crumbling of a marriage and the mourning period that comes when a relationship breaks apart. Expect some swearing (including "f--k"), and scenes where a character has loud, enthusiastic sex with a voice. There's a bit of quick topless nudity and some sexy moments between adults.
- Families can talk about the relationship between Samantha and Theodore. How is their relationship similar to traditional couplings? How is it different? Is this kind of relationship really far-fetched?
- What might the film be trying to say about the nature of love? Is this a movie about technology, or something much more human, like relationships?
The good stuff
Messages: The movie's depiction of love is profound and moving, and shows us that love can happen in strange ways, not always when we're looking for it, and that it can change us deeply if we can be open to it.
Role models: Theodore may be dazed by his divorce and confused by his feelings for Samantha, but he nevertheless opens himself up to the experience. Also, he's a good friend and a writer who makes an effort at his craft, even if they're letters on behalf of, and for, others.
What to watch for
Violence: Contentious arguments between a couple shown in flashbacks.
Sex: Two instances where a man has a version of phone sex; pleasure is audible and extended. A woman straddles a man and kisses him. One image of a topless pregnant woman that becomes fodder for a sexual fantasy.
Language: Language throughout including: "d-ck," "a--hole," and "f--k."
Consumerism: Not applicable
Drinking, drugs and smoking: Social drinking among friends.
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Long and slow by lcuws
This 2+ hour movie seemed even longer than it was. Slow boring scenes. Spent most of the movie staring at Phoenix's brooding, constipated looking face, which didn't display the emotion that was called for in this role. Creepy scene with a way-too-young-looking surrogate. This film needed more going on.
Really well done by SMM1943
I laughed out loud with everyone around me. It was hilarious and then brought me to tears towards the end. So well done. Acting was magnificent!
Eh. by befrey
Interesting look to the movie with costuming and wardrobe. Subject matter itself? Um, weird. Akin to types of fetishes. Wouldn't recommend it for most folks I know.
Can you buy the premise? by RandytheMovieFan
The audience was split at times between gasps of wonder and audible snorts of derision. For me, I bought the premise but still found the movie excruciatingly slow. But it was intriguing and very oft-kilter from the mainstream cinema, which is probably why so many critics love it. Worth checking out if you're a pure movie buff, and it might actually improve as a rental on the small screen. Maybe then the countless extreme close-ups of Joaquin Phoenix's face won't be quite so annoying.
HER by amyeller1
Bravo to Spike Jonze for creating a timely and provocative tale of narcissism, our cyber society and the way we perceive ourselves in and out of love. Her is truly a cautionary tale. Joaquin Phoenix has given us a glimpse of everyman, kind, gentle and longing to love and be loved. The film is such a frightening look into our society and just how close we really are to being Theodores and falling in love with Samanthas. How fearful we are of rejection, how our ability to communicate with one another is so compromised in this cyber age. Again the question of a generation unable to sustain and maintain intimate interpersonal relationships.
I wont give away the end, but will say I am grateful for the last image.
Her by valerfc
This movie was both very stupid and very boring. Her droning voice put me to sleep, and the premise of the movie was ridiculous. If they had made it a satire on how we are addicted to our electronics it might have been good, but the fact that it was presented as a serious love story ruined it for me.
Her by janetldean
This was one of the worst movies I have seen all year. I would have walked out but I really thought that it must have to get better with all the hype it had gotten. I could barely stay awake. After it was over, I wished I had walked out. If you are really curious, wait until it comes on TV - trust me, it will be there very shortly.
I can see why... by wesyates
I can see why its being touted as a great movie and being nominated for movie awards. Its done quite well, has a moving plot line, however its rather depressing. An allegory to the current state of our digital society. Its proclamation is that we are more and more dependent on our digital reality for our lives; that which takes over Theo's life. The movie seems a meld between 'Brave New World' (1980), '1984', and 'Logan's Run'.
Do go to see it but understand that its depressing.
Slow by aletaqueen
The idea of stepping into the future and peeking at how humans will interface with computers is interesting. It is now obvious that we will not need keyboards (hard or soft), because speech recognition is just about perfected. But, I wish they had reached out a little more and spotlighted more technological advances to add more interest to the film. Film could have also used more explanations about the role of letter writer and time period of film.
At first the writer hinted that a relationship with an operating system (named Samantha) was unusual, but later it became clear that many people were doing the same thing. It slowly became clear that the operating system can and did have multiple, simultaneous relationships, which is not the norm for people.
The film moved very slow and the background music was also slow, which led to a few times for naps. All in all, it would be better watched as a video at home, so you can rewind to see the parts you slept through
Beautifully done... by rljinsf
This is an amazing film! Very complex yet shown so simply as a love affair and the complexities that arise. Juaquine Phoenix is truly at his best here! I could watch this again!