Pause for kids 15 & under
Graceful, strange romance with intense moments of sexuality.
What Parents Need to Know
Parents need to know that Her is a beautiful, unusual romantic tale whose protagonist falls in love with a computer's voice, an offbeat coupling that may be difficult for younger viewers to comprehend. The film also takes on some mature themes, including the crumbling of a marriage and the mourning period that comes when a relationship breaks apart. Expect some swearing (including "f--k"), and scenes where a character has loud, enthusiastic sex with a voice. There's a bit of quick topless nudity and some sexy moments between adults.
- Families can talk about the relationship between Samantha and Theodore. How is their relationship similar to traditional couplings? How is it different? Is this kind of relationship really far-fetched?
- What might the film be trying to say about the nature of love? Is this a movie about technology, or something much more human, like relationships?
The good stuff
Messages: The movie's depiction of love is profound and moving, and shows us that love can happen in strange ways, not always when we're looking for it, and that it can change us deeply if we can be open to it.
Role models: Theodore may be dazed by his divorce and confused by his feelings for Samantha, but he nevertheless opens himself up to the experience. Also, he's a good friend and a writer who makes an effort at his craft, even if they're letters on behalf of, and for, others.
What to watch for
Violence: Contentious arguments between a couple shown in flashbacks.
Sex: Two instances where a man has a version of phone sex; pleasure is audible and extended. A woman straddles a man and kisses him. One image of a topless pregnant woman that becomes fodder for a sexual fantasy.
Language: Language throughout including: "d-ck," "a--hole," and "f--k."
Consumerism: Not applicable
Drinking, drugs and smoking: Social drinking among friends.
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Her by bern1509
Its hard to imagine the future and where technology is taking us...So you have this broken hearted man lonely after divorcing the love of his life and turns to an OS that can only deliver verbal communication for the entire film. If your n a fan of joakem Phoenix I don't recommend this film, it's him in an almost solo performance for two hours. Slowly paced but his performance was 100 percent and amy Adams never misses.
If nothing else I give it a b+.
A 2hr Lifetime special written by a crying poet by firebirdude
I cannot believe this movie is getting the ratings that it is. I have no problem playing along with the whole "falling in love with an AI OS system". But it's two hours of two people speaking softly to each other. It's loaded with cliche artsy shots like the classic "steam coming from a manhole cover" while a piano plays slowly in the background. Give me a break. This movie is for a gaggle of 35 year old menstruating heartbroken women. An instant Lifetime movie channel classic. I would not sit through that movie again if you, literally, paid me.
Ridiculous! by lwbaggett
Okay, I guess it's a satire about our e-culture? The dialogue was muttered most of the time and the plot was so utterly slow and boring that I went to sleep several times. The views of LA were lovely, however. Definitely not a kids' picture.
Meh! by Crowsfeet
Slightly deeper than I expected, but still really just a long, boring, drawn out and tedious commentary on human needs being increasingly fulfilled electronically, and the socially clumsy and lonely personalities this creates. Interesting men's clothing choices "slightly" in the future. I chuckled a couple of times, but really - I just came away unimpressed and a little creeped out. Meh.
We walked out by pseudandry
I was sooo looking forward to this! At the one hour mark, I looked over to see my husband yawning and shutting his eyes. I was bored, so I asked him if he wanted to leave. "Walk out?" he asked, startled because he knew I really wanted to see this movie. "Walk out," I confirmed. So we did. I know this movie was supposed to be more cerebral than visual, but even the cerebral part was trite, predictable, and strained - seriously, phone sex with a dead cat? That's what the movie needed to create interest? Well, even that failed.
Good concept, no restraint by zeoj
Phoenix did a good job and artificial intelligence is a hot topic. But, this is a very slow-action movie. And, it tries every gimmick without setting any boundaries, so it ends up being mostly a mush. It should have done a better job setting up the conceit and then been shorter overall.
Walked Out by andreah7
Boring, tedious and not a lot of fun. We left after 30 minutes. The premise was interesting, but the execution of this movie left a lot to be desired.
"Her" by boland7214
The first several minutes of the movie is a sexual climax scene using internet sex. It seems to go on for a long time.... I find scenes nauseating in any movie that show "bodily functions" such as defecating, humping and sexual climaxing that goes on for a relatively long time. If a movie is on DVD I can "fast forward" sexual climax and "humping" and defecating scenes. In a theater you are stuck there and forced to watch. But not me. In addition, the whole idea of the film seems sad. We got up and walked out and got a refund from Muvico. I'll probably get it on DVD from netflix when it comes out in that format.
Amazing Film by dirtys0ap
Her made me feel like all of my emotions had been run through a washing machine. This movie really blew my mind. There are obvious reasons why this relationship wouldn't work for him, but there are also a surprising number of reasons this relationship wouldn't work for her.
Shot with beautiful anamorphic cinematography, there are many great shots of a semi-futuristic Los Angeles. Having Theodore ride the train everywhere eliminated the need for futuristic cars, which almost always breaks my suspension of disbelief due to the lame designs or stupid disguises slapped onto current models.
This movie has soooo much subtext, I am still trying to digest. What makes somebody a human? What makes a relationship real? How is this different than a long distance relationship? Why does it matter as long as you're happy? The concept of singularity also plays a central role - that point when technology will evolve to the point that humans cannot even understand it. See it!!!
Interesting on a number of levels by jomeyertons
Surprisingly sensitive and humane plot, a kindly new twist on the idea of A.I. as superior to humans yet non-malevolent, and interesting color palette choices in cinematography. Gentle humor throughout, along with some not so subtle irony. This is a movie about personal growth, both in people and in machines (yes, the movie explores the idea that machines can be sensitive entities that learn and grow). It's an awful lot of Joaquin Phoenix up close for my taste, but Amy Adams provides excellent relief. I liked it - it's the opposite of nearly every action-packed blockbuster out there, and in that respect it is really refreshingly different. For one thing, it's set in Los Angeles and there are few cars in the whole movie.